Realizing that your boyfriend does not want to marry you can be heartbreaking. However, it does not have to be the end. Below, we will look at how you can tell when your boyfriend does not want to marry you and what to do when you see the signs.
No matter how good a relationship is, marriage just is not for everyone. If you and your partner have not yet talked about the big “M” word, it may be time to start the conversation. Here are a few ways to tell if your boyfriend does not want to marry you.
How Can You Be Sure?
Men will do many subtle things to silently tell you that they are not ready for marriage.
However, the primary indicator you can look for is an unwillingness to move forward with your relationship. If your man does not put work into your relationship, marriage is not the answer.
Another way some men will tell you they do not want to get married is by openly discussing it with their friends, even if you have never talked about it with them.
For example, they might say things in a group setting like, “I never plan on getting married,” even if they do not tell you directly.
If your man downplays the significance of your relationship or does not take your commitment to each other seriously, that is also a red flag. Marriage is not going to fix a relationship where one partner takes the other for granted.
What Should You Do Then?
There are a lot of options for your relationship once you realize your partner does not want to marry. But, first, sit down and have an honest conversation to be sure you are both on the same page. You do not want to make a decision without talking to them first.
After talking, it will be time to decide what matters more to you. For example, are you more serious about marriage than you are about your partner? What is it about marriage that you want? Is your connection with your partner worth never getting married?
One thing to remember is that if your boyfriend is not interested in marriage, trying to change their mind will often only make them more certain they do not want to commit.
Try to be understanding but firm with your opinions on the matter and explain why it is important to you.
How to Accept it?
Accepting that your boyfriend does not want to get married is different for everyone. If marriage is a deal-breaker for you, then it is time to start moving on.
Figure out how to break things off and start over while explaining that commitment and marriage are non-negotiable for you.
If you think that staying with your partner regardless of marriage is worth it, then accepting why they do not want to marry you might just take an honest conversation.
Maybe they’ve had bad experiences with marriage, or they don’t feel like it’s necessary for a committed relationship. Whatever you do, talk to your partner openly.
Do You Need to Break Up Immediately?
Not necessarily. Talk with your partner about his feelings on marriage as a whole and whether it is a “never” or just a “not now” feeling. It is possible for things to change as you get closer and spend more time together.
If you know that you will need marriage in your relationship and he is adamant that marriage is not in the cards, it is probably best to end things quickly. Continuing to build a relationship in a big conflict will result in heartbreak.
Can You Change His Mind?
Chances are you will not be able to change his mind. Plus, if he does not organically want to marry you and you want to marry, it is better to find someone who has the time ideals than to convince someone to do something they are against in the first place.
In general, trying to change someone’s mind on a topic this big is going to do little to no good. So instead, it is best to try to understand his point of view and decide about your relationship based on where the two of you are now.
Final Thoughts on Boyfriend That Does Not Want to Marry You
Just because your boyfriend does not want to marry you does not mean things have to end. However, it does mean that you must have a serious conversation about the future and your expectations for your relationship.
If marriage is a deal breaker for you, do not try to convince him to change his mind. Instead, try to move on and end things quickly. If you decide that being with your partner is enough and marriage is not necessary for your love story, try not to worry about it!